Sunday, July 24, 2005

Plausible Deniability

It won't happen ...

It won't happen to ME (us) because ....

And even if does ... I (we) will deal with it then

Now we are getting uncomfortably closer to the razor's edge.

You see something unfortunate happen(ing) to another.

Maybe now, maybe in the future.

It's time to establish plausible deniability in one's thinkings.


It won't happen to ME (us) because ....


Let's have the TOP TEN answers:

(Warning: some of these links connect to disturbing concepts like personal, mental, racial and religous superiority --as we said, we are getting uncomfortably close to the razor's edge. This site is not an advocate for the denial bases evidenced by the linked items. Rather, the linked items provide evidence of the use of such rationalizations for propping up the general reason for denial.)

0) No reason ... it just won't happen.

1a) I'm "different", I'm "better" than that.

1b) We are different / better than "Them"

2) I will not fall for the same ploy (I'm smarter)

2b) We are smarter

3) It's a long way off and ... 3a) Technology will save me/us 3b) Things always get better with time

4) Nothing that bad has ever happened to me/us before

5) I am a religious person --bad things don't happen to the good

6) Our leaders will save me/us

7) He/she was defective (I'm not)

8) He/she was bad & deserved it

9) Things always get better with time

10) ________ (Yours)

Post-still under construction:

Answer #0 No reason When you have no articulated reason at all, that is often referred to as "irrational," meaning you have failed to provide a rationalizating explanation for your behavior. There still may be a reason buried deep in your subconscious. But who has a right to judge here? Maybe irrational living is the way to go? Got no worries, got no concerns ... a kuna makkata (sp?)

Answer #1a I'm Different ... This is different

A very distinguished answer !! You are mentally dissasociating yourself from the possibility. Good job. This is probably the number 1 popular answer. Variations of it get into some nasty deeper details

From example, I'm different because I posses superior genes (DNA). There are subsets of this answer: a) Only I personally have these superior genes (that will let me live forever) b) My immediate family has superior genes (that will save me from the big C) c) My tribe or "race" has superior genes (that make me and us immune)

...still under construction


Pseudo-intellectual lunatic said...

interesting blog

head lem said...

Thanks for the look-in.
I looked at yours too. Interesting topics (dysfunctional families, etc).

The goal of this blog is to think out loud about why our society, rather than any specific individuals or specific families (1st or otherwise) behave in ways that may be self damaging.

Not all of our herd is going to fall over the edge when Peak Oil hits, or when Global Warming gets worse. I'm of the opinion that my half of the herd is the part that is going over the edge. Call that being selfish in some way; but aren't we all? And there lies the bulk of the problem.

How do we get the selfish parts to realize they are moving in a direction that will soon bring them over the edge? As of yet, most do not even see the edge. None will admit we are the lemmings.

head lem said...

Speaking of Plausible deniability
Here is a scholarly PDF on the crying wolf too often problem and the geophysics and economics of peak oil:

and a web site discussing the PDF paper:

Anonymous said...

Answer 1a is almost the same as answer 0 except that you claim to be answering but supply an extremely vague answer. Obviously to have a different outcome there has to be a difference somewhere so you just claim it is with yourself.

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Breath deeply and slow down. Don't rush to do things.
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