We blame others for being what they are.
But did they have a choice?
Did they choose to be what they are or was most of it preordained by the birth lottery? Did they pick their parents? Did they pick the culture they would be brought up in? Did they pick the religion they would follow? Did they pick the history that surrounds them? Did they pick the framework in which they see the world?
So why do we blame them (and not ourselves)? Why do we fail to understand that they are victims of their circumstances much as we are of our own?